You’re here because you want better relationships. ME TOO.
Let’s get to know each other :)
What I'd consider "fulfilling relationships" didn't come easy for me.
(relationships - romantic, family, friends, professional relationships)
For a long time, I felt that something was 'missing' or 'wrong' in my relationships, but couldn't quite put a finger to it.
At times, it felt as though there were a specific issues, but I couldn't seem to get to the crux of it.
My internal battles often looked like this:
"Is it there something wrong with me, or is it them?"
"Should I change, or should they be the ones changing?"
"Are they the right people to keep in my life? I don't think so, but I don't want to break off our connection."
My internal battles never ever ended with productive conclusions.
On good days, I felt stable and grounded. On some days, I felt so overwhelmed by my emotions I can't function well. Then on others, I felt so detached from my emotions that it could only be described as 'numb' or 'empty'.
Because I didn't always live my days in a state of presence, I sometimes made decisions, developed coping mechanisms, and walked paths that didn't serve me (or anyone else).
Therapy changed things for me.
I developed an understanding of my inner landscape, and from that space of deep knowing of the Self, I could make better choices. My relationships with my Self, with others, and with Life started to shift.
Sounds straightforward, but honestly, inner work isn't always 'pretty'. I saw, with so much clarity, my whole Self: The parts I love, and the parts I dislike and desperately want to reject.
And then, I had to do the work to bring out the parts I love to bring more love and good to my communities. And also accepting the parts I dislike as my responsibility to heal, regardless of whether I had been a victim to those circumstances - of course, with great, great compassion and love.
It has been a journey of learning, unlearning, relearning, making mistakes, trying new ways etc. It's ongoing work. I am still doing it.
I want you to know that things do get better. We can all get better. I hope you will get to experience this possibility too.
Let's do this together.
Here for you,
Jasmine
My therapy approach
My therapeutic style is warm, gentle, and compassionate.
You will feel safely held in a non-judgemental and confidential space, and know that I’m right there by your side journeying along.
In sessions, we work with YOU - the whole person. We engage your mind, your body, and the mind-body connection.
Reframing our thinking, challenging our thoughts, learning new strategies - these are important, but not enough. Emotions are stored in our bodies, so we also have to tap on our body’s wisdom to find our way forward.
I tailor my approach to your unique circumstances. I adopt an integration of Person-Centred Therapy, Attachment-based Somatic Therapy, and Focusing-Oriented Therapy.
In layman’s terms, it means a few things:
You’re not seen as a set of problems to be fixed, but as a whole person with the innate capacity to grow and heal - therapy provides you with the support to achieve this.
We cannot get rid of all challenges and painful feelings in life, but we can learn how to ride the waves with greater ease.
You’ll learn to listen to your body and harness the body’s knowledge and wisdom to create a meaningful life.
Through a nuanced understanding of your attachment style, I will gently guide you towards a new way of relating with your Self and others that move you towards a more secure attachment style. You will see tangible and positive changes in both your personal and professional life.
Why I do what I do —
The quality of our relationships
determine the quality of our lives.
I say this with a lot of love, and without exaggeration.
Humans are wired for connection. We NEED good relationships to survive, to thrive.
The relationships we desire are not always dished to us on a silver platter (well if you’re a recipient of this, you’re very lucky!).
Often, we have to learn how to cultivate them.
And the foundation of ANY interpersonal relationship is this:
The relationship we have with ourselves.
We can spend hours and days (over-)analysing others, trying to figure out the intentions behind their actions.
And/or we can pull our hairs out trying to intellectualise our own thoughts, behaviours, and actions.
Thinking, guessing, rationalising - you’re not alone if you’re doing this. After all, this is what is promoted in dominant cultures.
Go on Instagram and TikTok and you can find tonnes of videos about attachment styles and why your partner is behaving this way.
I’m not saying such content is necessarily bad. But it may be pointing you in the wrong direction. And lead us to asking the wrong questions.
IG/TikTok therapy could lead us to unnecessarily pigeon-holing ourselves (and others), developing self-limiting beliefs, or even creating excuses for Self and others and avoiding the real issue. No wonder things are not changing for the better!
My work centres around providing better education on relationships and creating safe spaces for us to develop secure attachment.
Not all of us have the privilege of developing secure attachment through our environments of origin, but I want you to experience that secure attachment can be earned. We can work towards it, and it will be possibly one of the most important paths to walk. Then, watch your life shift.
The way we interact with our Selves is the way we interact with the world.
And the way we interact with the world affects EVERYTHING - our interpersonal relationships, our work, our collective futures.
Now, YOU get to make this choice.
The power and agency for change is in your hands.
You get to choose a better version of your Self, develop quality relationships, thrive, and be an inspiration to those around you.
Let’s do this together :)
My experience
PG Dip in Psychotherapy & Counselling (PACFA & ACA accredited)
The Cairnmillar Institute, Melbourne, Australia
Advanced training in Focusing-Oriented Therapy
Biliana Dearly Training and Therapy, Melbourne, Australia
Certified Somatic Attachment Therapist
The Embody Lab
MA in Language & Cultural Diversity (Dist.)
Kings College London, UK
PGDip in Education (Dist.)
National Institute of Education, Singapore
BA (Hons) Linguistics (1st class)
National University of Singapore
To provide the best to my clients, I continuously upgrade myself through professional development courses in the areas of attachment theory, anxiety, stress & overwhelm, burnout, relationships (inner & interpersonal), working with the body (somatics), and working through trauma.
I am also a 200-hr certified yoga teacher, certified trauma-informed coach, certified life coach, and certified root cause therapist.
Get to know ME!
(outside the therapy room)
I’m NOT a thrill seeker, but I occasionally challenge myself to do uncomfortable things!
I LOVE immersing in the wonders of nature
I need TWO cups of coffee (flat white please) a day
I still struggle with my body image sometimes
I can stay at home infinitely with a few good books, coffee, my couch, and yoga mat
I didn’t use to have secure attachment and it was hard-earned over years of inner work
I’m a recovering perfectionist and people-pleaser
I’m a proud INFJ, Enneagram Type 4, and Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
Ready for better relationships?
With the right support, you can have the relationships you desire.
When you’re ready, I’d love to support you.
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